And I Still Have A Decade to Go….

Before I begin this blog post, I want to say “Thank You, Travis !”. You are one of the kindest, sweetest and humblest black creatives I know. (Check out his photography work here : https://www.travishouze.com/ ). Thank you for putting your foot on my neck and not letting up on me. It’s people like you who keep me focused on my writing, even when I don’t give it the attention I should. Had it not been for your persistence, I wouldn’t have been able to get past my laziness and write this post. So with this I want to to truly say “Thank You”.

As the decade comes to a conclude, we’re all gearing up to create our “New Year Resolutions”. Some of us are making social media post on our future manifestations (yes, I’m one of those people). But I think this blog post should be about reflection. This entire decade has molded me into a new person. If my math is right and it is. This time ten years ago, I was 16 ( yes, this is sixteen year old me).

I had absolute no clue the hardships and life lessons I would endure. I was entering my senior year in high school with the aspirations of attending college out of the state. However, I ended up in a serious relationship with an amazing guy. Only to walk away from it all , in search of my own identity. Within these past ten years and I can honestly say I have attained my goal.

Over these past ten years I have learned:

  • How strong I really am and majority of the things I went through should have killed me physically, mentally, spiritually or emotionally.
  • When people show you who they are the first time, Believe them.
  • No one is going to love “YOU” more than “YOU”. Always put your peace and self first.
  • Its okay to let people go. Everyone is not meant to be apart of your journey.
  • Its okay to ask too much from God and to DREAM BIG. (Sometimes we get in our own way. We like to downplay our wants when they don’t seem attainable).
  • Sometimes you have to go through things alone to understand the value in a situation.
  • Whatever it is you want to try. DO IT !!! Don’t wait, you may never start. (Shoutout to the one time I randomly flew to Miami for an EDM music festival).

This decade was tough. These past three years has kicked my ass. Through it all, I can say I have gained the following success:

  • I found my TRIBE. You know the group of friends that understands you and love you unconditionally.
  • I have been working with a therapist and my mental health is stronger than ever.
  • It’s okay to be vulnerable.
  • It’s okay for everything not to be okay. Some days are just going to be shitty.
  • I can honestly say I have unconditional love for myself.
  • Whatever you pursue, give it your all.
  • I became more aware of my wants and needs.
  • I became more organized and structured.
  • I practice holding myself accountable for things that happened in my life.
  • I learned the strength in saying “NO” and WALKING AWAY from things and people who disrupt my peace.

So as this year comes to a close. If you feel like you haven’t achieved your goals . It’s okay ! Use the New Year or decade to shape up the best version of yourself. Have some New Years Resolutions in mind ? Feel free to share them with me in the comment box below. In the words of SZA “God Bless These 20 Somethings”.

I promise, I’ll have a new Instagram profile photo in 2020.

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